Making room for more…

I will admit it.  Sometimes it is hard for me to let go of things.  Whether it’s a painting, a lamp, a book, a piece of paper my granddaughter scribbled on for ten minutes 10 years ago or a friendship that is no longer serving the needs of either person.   Somehow, it feels like giving up.  Like quitting.  It feels as though the release itself is a cost. 

I’ve learned over time one of the reasons it is hard to let go is the mistaken belief that if we let go of the “thing”, we are letting go of the person, of the memory, even the belief behind the “thing”.   In my case, I didn’t want anything to be out of sight for fear it would not just be out of mind, I also risked it being out of heart. 

Pouring WaterJim Rohn tells the story of speaking with some young people and showing them a pitcher of water that was not full and asking if it could hold more water.  Of course they said yes.  And so he filled it to the brim and asked again – can more water go into the pitcher?  One student understood and answered correctly – Yes!  How could more water go in? Simple: by pouring some of the water into a glass.    What an incredible lesson.  Sometimes we have to pour some out to make room for more.

What is ahead in this year in terms of change isn’t something we can predict.  We can plan, prepare, and act.  But at many points along the way, the winds are going to shift and adjustments will be required.  Sometimes we are going to have to pour something out to make room for new.   What a different perspective though.  It’s rather like the new commercials for Special K cereal – what will you gain when you lose? 

Starting with the physical layer is often easier when we’re working with emotional issues like this.  My challenge to myself for the first month of 2013 is to give something away every day.  That’s my starting point for “pouring out”.  Seven days into the year and it is incredible how much freer I feel already.  Space is opening up.  The air is easier to breath. 

Something to think about…

About Kathi Laughman

Referred to by her clients as “The Plan B to Z Expert”, Kathi inspires them to see beyond probabilities to possibilities. They are stronger, happier and more financially secure than ever before. The result is the creation of far more value in the rest of their story than they ever dreamed possible. She serves professionals committed to continuously creating new pathways to success and significance.


  1. I too am cleaning out and making room. I just feel like my life is cluttered with too much of everything and there is no room for what I want to focus on. So, I’m giving away a lot of clothes, things, and unnecessary obligations to make room for a better life. I’m also giving away hugs and they fill the void better than any material thing ever could.

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