Are you too comfortable?

Time for ChangeThere has been a great deal of emphasis on finding balance in our lives, reducing stress and creating a more authentic lifestyle.  And all of that is good:  to a point.

There is a difference between balance and boring.  And there is a difference between stress and passion.  More importantly, since our own authenticity is evolving, our lives also need to be following that same pattern.

One of my favorite quotes comes from Golda Meir.  When asked for her insights based on her achievements and the significant role she played on a very global stage, she offered this advice:

“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life.

Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility

into flames of achievement.”

We continuously realize our full potential by fanning tiny inner sparks of possibility into the flames of achievement.  We determine the achievements and we pick which sparks to fan into those flames.  There is the key – WE must decide.  WE must do.

Here are five questions that can help you determine if you are on your own best personal path or if you have become a bit “too comfortable” in that easy chair of your life:

#1:  When was the last time you tried something new?

Think about this for a moment.  Do you always eat the same food?  Listen to the same music?  Read the same authors?  Go to the same places?  If you aren’t exposing yourself to any new experiences, the rut is going to happen naturally.  You’re going back and forth in a groove.

#2:  How much are you learning and growing right now?

There is an unlimited curriculum in life for learning.  What do you want to know that right now you don’t?  Do you have a learning strategy that is aligned to your life strategy?

#3:  When was the last time you took a REAL risk?

We’ve universally become a bit more risk averse over the past few years.  The economy has generated some real fear and real loss and there is a learned response to that.  Not unlike the first time we touch a hot stove – pretty rare to go back again.  We found out that action didn’t pay off.  Sometimes we see all risk the same.  We’ve forgotten that risk itself has changed.

Not taking risks today is in fact the greatest risk.  Are you employed and know your industry or function is in decline?  Are you taking any risks to change your situation?  Risk could mean investing $$’s in education; it could mean starting your own part-time business; it could simply mean facing your fears and going to a networking function and meeting new people.  What we fear the most is usually what is in truth holding us back.  Face the fear and remove the obstacle.

#4:  Do you feel like you have become very good at doing things that don’t matter?

Our intuitive natures can be our own barometer to tell us when we need to be willing to ride the winds of change.  When we begin to believe that what we do in life is not significant, it is not long before we believe we ourselves are not important.  And we are.  We each have value.  Value that is uniquely each of us.  There is someone right now waiting for you to be your best self so that they can be inspired by your example.

#5:  Do you look forward to each day with enthusiasm?

Are you ready to go before your feet hit the floor?  This is not about whether you are a morning person or a night owl.  This is about looking forward to what each day brings.  When we get “too comfortable” in life, we can begin to “phone in” our performance and not be reaching inside for our personal best.   Have you ever been pre-occupied when you left home and arrive at your destination and not remember the trip? You weren’t engaged in the journey.  You went through the motions you were trained to go through.  That is not living.  That is just driving through life.

If any of these questions resonate with you, it is important to remember that you hold the power to break the barrier of that comfort zone.

There are only three things you need to do:

1)      Decide you are ready for change

2)      Decide where you want to start

3)      Choose one action you can do NOW to start down that new path.

Once you are moving in the right direction, momentum will take over.  And the fresh energy you experience from changing one thing will also fuel other fires.  The sparks will carry into every area of your life.

About Kathi Laughman

Referred to by her clients as “The Plan B to Z Expert”, Kathi inspires them to see beyond probabilities to possibilities. They are stronger, happier and more financially secure than ever before. The result is the creation of far more value in the rest of their story than they ever dreamed possible. She serves professionals committed to continuously creating new pathways to success and significance.


  1. Oh, I love those questions Kathi. It is so true. We can get too comfortable and in too much of a rut. I love your question about trying something new. When we enjoy doing what we do we can become complacent about trying something new but it does not have to take away from the enjoyment we already have.

    • Thanks, Kaye! I fight this in my own life! I’m an avid student but I let myself really get in ruts and not try DOING new things.. I agree, it can be a battle to let go of what “feels good” but we had to let go and try that at some point! So we’re just finding more!

  2. Great post Kathi and fits in with a comment I made to my grandson today … “I like to learn something new everyday”. If you are uncomfortable, then you are growing. We need to experience ‘growing pains’.
    I feel good within myself after answering your questions.
    Thank you for the sharing
    Dawn Alice

    • Thanks, Dawn Alice! Conversations with grandchildren are priceless! They are my favorites. I have a small plaque on my desk that says “Learn something new. Then teach someone.” That has been a guiding mantra for me for a long time. It is the best way I have found to guard against that “comfort zone”. Glad you enjoyed the post.

  3. Great advice…
    Except I would put # 5 first- because if you are not, then it is clear that it is time to try something new!

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