Word Swap: The Power of Perspective

The Right Questions

Sometimes changing one word in a question is all you need to change your perspective.  And most of the time, changing our perspective is all we need to change our life.

Here is a very simple (and perhaps familiar!) question:

How can I get out of this?  Can you sense the panic? The desperation? Have you been there?

Now let’s look at the first word of the question and replace it and see what happens.

When we change the word “how” to “when” for example, it would seem be more definite. And assumptive of an outcome.

When can I get out of this?   Already feels better doesn’t it? There is an assumption that you WILL get out of it.  It’s just a matter of time.

But there’s a better word swap that will completely shift the situation.  Let’s change “how” to “what”:

What can I get out of this?  A completely different perspective.  And we only changed one word.

But that one word shifts the entire thing.  And with that, you shift your day, your week, your life.

The right question matters.  The right words matter. What questions are you asking that may need some word swapping?

 

 

Words that Work: Favorites from 2013

Oil LampOne of my favorite writing series on this blog from 2013 was “Words That Work”.

The posts were designed to help remind us to keep putting “oil in our lamp” each day so that our light can continue to burn. I borrowed the phrase from Mother Teresa’s lesson: “To keep a lamp burning, we have to keep putting oil in it.”

The “oil” came from a desk calendar I used throughout the year from Hay House and each month I chose several that were favorites and then a final one for each month.  It’s now time to wrap up the series and add the final entry for December.

As a reminder, here are the favorites from January through November:

January:  I am filled with gratitude for all of the blessing of my life.

February: What a great adventure life is!

March: It is only a thought, and a thought can be changed.

April: I truly believe that we are here to bless and prosper each other.

May:  Change can begin in this moment.  I am willing to change.

June:  Sharing who I really am with others thrills my heart.  The mystery of me unfolds in new ways every day.

July:   My life is in order; I love my daily routines, which exercise my body and train my mind. I give myself permission to feel wonderful.

August:   Today I let my voice be heard. I let my prayers be answered. I let the healing take place.

September:  I allow myself to succeed.  I am far more than my past limited thinking.

October:  Small events can bring great good into my life.

November: I remind myself that the point of power is always in the present moment.

For December, there were two daily notes that were very helpful to me and I am sharing them both because of their relevancy to what we are talking about here for January and being faithful to our promise and promises.

The first was from Friday the 13th!  “Every experience I have is valuable to me.  I am willing to learn.”  That was a great summation for me of the year.  So many NEW experiences and they were so valuable.  It was a very introspective year and the abundance of wisdom that came my way was remarkable.  The second came from the 19th.  It was one of those times where I read the page and went on about my day but then came back to read it again.  My platform has become to live today like you want tomorrow to be.  The words that day were these:  “My future (health) depends on my NOW choices.”  A priceless reminder.  Whether it is our health, relationships, work, finances or any other part of our life, our future depends on our NOW choices.

And with that this series is a wrap.  I hope that you enjoyed these posts as much as I enjoyed sharing them with you.  The key is that each of us needs to take the time to keep oil in our lamps, to keep our light shining brightly.  Self care must be an honored priority for every part of us.

The final entry in the calendar for December 31st was a blessing which I share with you here:

“I bless this past year with love. I am grateful for all I have experienced and learned. I release the past. Tomorrow begins a new adventure, and I look forward to it eagerly.”  Well said!

Watch for the new series for 2014 coming soon!

 

Words that work: Favorites from August

Oil LampWelcome back to the continuing series of “Words That Work”.

This series is here to help remind all of to keep putting “oil in our lamp” each day so that our light can continue to burn. To give credit where credit is certainly due, we are borrowing from the desk calendar from Hay House, one of the “oil for my lamp” tools that I draw from every day.

Before moving on to August, let’s pay homage once more to the favorites from January to July:

January:  I am filled with gratitude for all of the blessing of my life.

February: What a great adventure life is!

March: It is only a thought, and a thought can be changed.

April: I truly believe that we are here to bless and prosper each other.

May:  Change can begin in this moment.  I am willing to change.

June:  Sharing who I really am with others thrills my heart.  The mystery of me unfolds in new ways every day.

July:   My life is in order; I love my daily routines, which exercise my body and train my mind. I give myself permission to feel wonderful.

As usual, August brought several “winners” to the favorite queue.

From the 22nd – “Today I let my voice be heard. I let my prayers be answered. I let the healing take place.”

From the 29th – “My body is always going in the direction of optimal health. I focus my attention on wholeness and welcome it into my life.”

From the 30th – “My inner dialogue is kind and loving. My thoughts create only good experiences.”

In my words: As my spiritual life has matured, my perspective and practice of prayer has also gone through changes.  It has become a part of the fabric of my life vs. something I do at certain times or places.  This conversational dialogue has created a richer experience in every part of my life.  My path to wellness over these past months has created clarity about the relationship between my all of the “parts” of me.  That interdependence and balance is now prominent in how I view my priorities and schedule. By coming to the day with the expectation of good things, it in fact adjusts my “life lens” so that those are the things I see.  As Thoreau said: “It is not what you look at that matter. It is what you see.”  I agree.

As always, our wrap up is the burning question (pun intended!): How are you going to keep oil in your lamp today?  Have you found your own “Words that Work”?  Share them with us here!

Words that work: Favorites from July

Oil LampWelcome back to the continuing series of “Words That Work”. 

This series is here to help remind all of to keep putting “oil in our lamp” each day so that our light can continue to burn. And to give credit where credit is certainly due, we are borrowing from the desk calendar from Hay House, one of the “oil for my lamp” tools that I draw from every day.

Before we get to July, let’s take just a moment to look back at the first six months of 2013.  The words were compelling in the moment.  And they have remained just as inspirational.  As I read these gems again, I can see how each of them validates where my mind and heart are focused.  As we live each day as we want tomorrow to be, gratitude, adventure, mindset, abundance, growth and transparency are all essential elements to embrace.

January:  I am filled with gratitude for all of the blessing of my life.

February: What a great adventure life is!

March: It is only a thought, and a thought can be changed.

April: I truly believe that we are here to bless and prosper each other.

May:  Change can begin in this moment.  I am willing to change.

June:  Sharing who I really am with others thrills my heart.  The mystery of me unfolds in new ways every day.

Now on to July!  My birth month which I now share with my youngest grand-girl! It is also a special month each summer because I share it with her big sister. For me, July is about sharing across generations and celebrating what we pass on and how they make it richer with their own unique stamp. It’s going to be challenging to choose next month what stays in the “Words That Work” Hall of Fame for this year’s July segment.  There were four stand-outs. Here they are:

From July 5thI rejoice in laughter whenever and wherever I hear it. I am glad to be alive.  This was especially poignant because I had my daughter, son-in-law and both grand-girls with me that day. There is nothing quite as magical as a baby’s laughter. We reveled in that music of the faeries! It was also a reminder that we need pockets of pure joy along the way. I cherish the moments where the divine connection expands our being to the point of bubbling over.  Laughter from pure joy: what a gift!

Next up is from July 10th: I bless my car with love and light before I drive it. I am always safe on the road.  Lots of travel time in July made me appreciate how blessed we are to have the freedoms we do to explore our world. One of my road trips took my granddaughter and I to Austin, Texas where we watched bats soar at night; ate at a little restaurant called BACON (Yes! Everything on the menu was about bacon!); soaked in the incredible history of Texas at the Museum of History and the Capital; and, my personal favorite – took a tour of this incredible city on segways.  That last one was notable for me because it meant stepping far beyond my comfort zone.  It is now an activity I look forward to experiencing again.

The third stand-out came from July 12th: My heart is the center of my power. I create easily and effortlessly when I let my thoughts come from the loving space of my own heart.   Have you ever had one of the moments where you read something and you just had to stop for a moment and let the words wash through you? That’s how that day’s message affected me. A complete understanding that our true power dwells in our hearts and is generated by love is amazing.

Last but not least comes from July 13th: My life is in order; I love my daily routines, which exercise my body and train my mind. I give myself permission to feel wonderful.  Wrapping up July is always a little said for me because it means taking my granddaughter home and experiencing a small re-taste of the “empty nest”.  It is in the routine of my life however that I have found peace for those pockets of transition. My routines focus on all dimensions of health: Mental, spiritual, physical, and emotional. 

By having routines, we also enjoy the benefit of momentum and personal power.  This also takes in my personal mantra to “live today like you want tomorrow to be”.  Having an established framework that keeps us centered is invaluable for today and the future.

As always, the wrap up is the burning question (pun intended!): How are you going to keep oil in your lamp today?  Have you found your own “Words that Work”?  Share them with us here!

Words that work: Favorites from June

Oil LampWelcome back to the continuing series of “Words That Work”. 

One of the most important tenets of personal development is knowing that we must continue to grow in order to help others do the same.  Finding the right tools to help you do that is essential

This series is meant to serve as a reminder to keep putting “oil in your lamp” each day so that your light can continue to burn.

We are borrowing from the desk calendar from Hay House, one of the “oil for my lamp” tools that I draw from every day.

Here were some favorites from the first four months of 2013:

January:  I am filled with gratitude for all of the blessing of my life.

February: What a great adventure life is!

March: It is only a thought, and a thought can be changed.

April: I truly believe that we are here to bless and prosper each other.

May brought even more insights about losing limits in our life that don’t serve us and there were five that really stood out as “Words That Work” for keeping our lamps burning.

Coaching Insight:  We see what we are looking for.  So set the expectation early each day.  Make sure that you’re filling your mind with good things every morning.  It works.

From the five in May, here is the one that over the month of June continued to resonate and goes on the list as my favorite:

May:  “Change can begin in this moment.  I am willing to change.”   Resolve is wonderful! Not to mention, powerful.

Now on to June!  Or rather – back to June!  Here are my top two:

From June 24th: “Sharing who I really am with others thrills my heart.  The mystery of me unfolds in new ways every day.”  It takes great courage to allow ourselves to be seen.  To be known.  But it is the most rewarding way to live our lives.  There is such beauty in allowing ourselves to grow in meaningful ways.

From June 28th:  “I practice forgiveness daily so that I am free to move beyond the past into the present moment.”   We are not free to move into today as long as we allow emotions like anger or resentment to hold us in the past.  Even when (or perhaps especially when!) the person we need to forgive is ourselves.  We are free to begin anew in every moment but only when we let go of what came before.

As always, the wrap up is the burning question (pun intended!): How are you going to keep oil in your lamp today?  Have you found your own “Words that Work”?  Share them with us here!